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World Doula Week - #postpartumdoulasdothat


Your baby is just a week old and sleep deprivation has taken over. Your partner is getting ready to return to work and your family and friends are getting ready to go back to their regular lives. You have received wonderfully prepared meals, gifts and well-meaning advice. Now for the first time since baby was born it’s just you and the baby. This can be a very exciting time but can also be a tough transition and sometimes new mothers are left feeling lonely and isolated. Nobody is around to hold baby while you go to the bathroom... A million questions run through your head.

“How are we going to do this?”
“How am
I going to do this?”
“Is baby getting enough to eat?”

“Are we ever going to sleep again?”
“Will I ever eat a hot meal again?”
“What is the best way to soothe my baby?”
“Why does my baby have her days and nights mixed up?”

And the list goes on…

Just about the time self-doubt starts to sink in, your postpartum doula walks through the door for her scheduled shift and greets you with a smile. She is ready to help out where needed and make this an amazing day. She asks how everyone is doing and if she can get anything for you. You express to her that you’d love to take a hot shower and maybe take a nice long nap, since those are few and far between these days. You gently place your baby in your doula's arms and she lets you know everything will be taken care of. “Take your time” she says as you disappear into the bathroom for some much needed time to yourself.

When you wake up from your nap you walk out of your bedroom feeling like a human again and return to find baby asleep next to your doula. The dishes are done, baby’s laundry is folded, and what is that wonderful aroma coming from the kitchen? Yes, your postpartum doula already has dinner cooking in the oven.

The above scenario is what you can expect when you hire a postpartum doula from Northeast Iowa Doulas. While many well-meaning family and friends offer to help take care of baby, your postpartum doula will take care of your whole family. Our primary focus is mom’s physical and emotional recovery from birth, followed by any newborn care that is needed or desired, followed by any household tasks that we can help out with. Whether that means taking some time for yourself, catching up on some much needed sleep, preparing meals and snacks, running errands, helping keep the house tidy, or even just having one person who validates all your parenting decisions that you can feel safe talking to; your postpartum doula can do it all.

In addition to helping around the house your postpartum doula from Northeast Iowa Doulas is also trained to help you adjust during this time. This means knowing what can be expected physically and emotionally during your postpartum transition, teaching you how to recognize baby’s feeding and sleeping cues, and recognizing when some additional attention is needed. Each of our postpartum doulas are trained in recognizing the signs of postpartum mood and anxiety disorders such as the postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and postpartum psychosis. Should our doulas feel that additional help is needed we have a fantastic list of local resources to refer our clients to when something falls outside the scope of postpartum doula care.

By hiring a doula from Northeast Iowa Doulas you can be sure that you will receive only the best professional doula support that Iowa has to offer. For more information about our postpartum services click  here or contact us today for more information.

We look forward to hearing from you!

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Authored by: Victoria Cartland
Edited by: Kaity Klotzbach




Fuller House - Building Your Village

“It takes a village to raise a child.” It’s an adage we’ve all heard before, but what does it look like in our modern society?

  • Single mothers living or working together, helping each other with childcare and everything else that parenthood encompasses
  • Single parent moving in with their parent(s) to have a more stable environment
  • Moving into the same neighborhood as family to ensure you'll have backup when needed
  • Calling on everyone from family, neighbors, friends, and coworkers for support
  • Hiring a professional postpartum doula

Fuller House was recently released on Netflix and follows the story of DJ Tanner as she navigates being a recently widowed single mother. It is clear to viewers that DJ is nervous about what her life will look like when her family all returns to their regular lives, leaving her alone as a single mother of three young boys. While toasting to family at the going away party DJ realizes that in the morning everyone will be gone. She goes on to say, “But we’ll be fine; there are lots of single moms. I can do this. I just want you all to know I love you so much.”

Feeling Overwhelmed

As DJ’s family prepares to leave her youngest son, Tommy, gets an ear infection. When family members offer to help, DJ says, “No, this is my responsibility.” As she rushes off to take care of her baby her father asks if she’s okay. DJ replies, “Yes, I’m fine! Why does everyone keep asking me that? I have to get to Tommy!” As her family stands in the kitchen, they can hear Tommy crying on the monitor and DJ trying to comfort him. This scene was heartbreaking for me; I cried as DJ said “It’s okay Tommy, Mommy’s here. I’m sorry but I’m having a tough day too. It’s just everyone’s leaving and for the first time we’re going to be all on our own. It’s okay, I know. I just don’t know if I can deal with all of this. I just hope I can give you the beautiful life you deserve.”

Family Steps Up

When DJ comes back downstairs she is surprised to find her family and best friend still in the house. When she asks why people haven’t left yet her father, her aunt, and her uncle all say they’re going to stay and help her. Finally, her sister Stephanie steps in to say, “You guys, sit down, we’re going to have a little talk… You guys did your share for us. Now it’s time for me to step up…I am clearing my schedule and I am moving in with my sister…” Looking at DJ she says, “You are entirely too stubborn to ask anyone for help! You do everything for everyone else. You need me right now.” Finally DJ responds and says, “The truth is I have been so scared about how to make this work by myself. I love you guys so much.”

How can I get that?

Not everyone has family and friends that live close enough to step in to help. Even if your family does live close by it doesn’t mean they are in the position to do what Stephanie and Kimmy did for DJ. It is possible you have the fantastic support of family to help out after baby arrives, but that typically only lasts for a short time.

So how can you get the support DJ has? You can hire Northeast Iowa Doulas for all your postpartum care needs! Our professional postpartum doulas can meet every need your family has. We offer anywhere from daytime shifts, overnight care, all the way up to 24-hour live-in care. With each of these services we tailor the work we do to provide support where it is most needed and desired.

When hiring Northeast Iowa Doulas for your overnight care needs, you can be sure that everyone in your house will receive a full night of sleep. This will help ensure you will be well-rested and ready to care for the baby the next day. No more ‘mombies’! Even if you are planning to breastfeed; your postpartum doula will bring baby to you when it’s time to nurse and then take care of baby’s other needs so you can go right back to sleep. Sounds amazing, right?

Cooking, light housework, sibling care, validation in your parenting choices, a full night’s sleep; the possibilities are endless. All of our doulas will provide your family with unbiased, judgment-free support as your family finds its groove. This means we provide 100% unconditional support for all parenting choices. This is your baby and only you and your partner know what's best. Our job is to help you find a parenting style you like and become confident in it.

For more information about postpartum services click here or contact us today for more information. We look forward to hearing from you!

Authored by: Victoria Cartland
Edited by: Kaity Klotzbach

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